Then I can help. I am a highly qualified counsellor and psychosexual therapist with 34 years of experience.
You may find it helpful to have an initial session with me to explore how individual or couple counselling, sex therapy or sex addiction therapy might help you. I can normally offer a first appointment quickly. I provide counselling sessions via a number of methods, this includes face to face, remote (via Zoom or other), and telephone counselling.
More information on the counselling and psychosexual-therapy I provide can be found further down the page, for times and prices please see counselling services. For sexual addiction please see my other website.
If you are interested in booking a session or have a question or concern, then please contact me.
You may well be unsure about whether counselling or sex therapy is what you need and I can assess this when we meet and advise you on the best way forward. The following video provides more information.
Relationship and personal counselling.
If you are experiencing problems in your relationship then couple or individual counselling is the appropriate approach. If you are struggling to deal with a relationship that has ended then individual counselling can be helpful.
If relationship problems are affecting your sex life then counselling will probably help.
I can also assist with issues such as bereavement and loss, depression and anxiety or panic attacks.
Counselling should have a focus and we will always have an idea of what we are trying to achieve. My role is to help you explore your issues, to help you put together an explanation of why problems have arisen, and to help you negotiate changes to improve your relationship or your quality of life in the future.
Most sexual problems are psychological in origin and this is what psychosexual therapy deals with. If you are in a relationship which is essentially sound but it is suffering because of sexual problems such as premature ejaculation, erectile dysfunction, and loss of desire then psychosexual therapy - often called sex therapy - will help you. Sex therapy is preferably done with the couple but I also work with individuals.
Having explored the problems with you I will design a personalised therapy programme for you including exercises for you to do at home. We will meet regularly to discuss your progress and to deal with any issues that arise.
It is not necessary for you to know or understand the techniques and theoretical approaches I use in order to benefit from them but I am happy to explain them if you wish.
In summary, I use psychodynamic counselling, cognitive behavioural therapy (CBT), transactional analysis (TA) and solution focused brief therapy; I choose techniques appropriate to the issues you want to tackle. The terms counselling and psychotherapy are largely interchangeable.
The normal pattern for delivering counselling is weekly sessions of one hour. I may suggest that you do some tasks at home such as writing lists or practising communication skills. The sessions will involve exploring issues and ideas.
Psychosexual therapy also usually includes a weekly session of one hour. In addition, you should allow at least two hours a week to do therapy tasks.
The weekly session with me is your opportunity to raise concerns and seek clarification of issues which have arisen from the tasks. Later in therapy, it may not be necessary to meet on a weekly basis.
I can be flexible to meet your needs but I balance this against what is likely to be most effective for you.
I offer supervision of practice to counsellors and other professionals. Please see my supervision website for further information.